Shoesday Tuesday – Girls Just Wanna Be Strong

In today’s Shoesday Tuesday – I’m going to talk about something I’ve touched on once before (see here.) And that is the idea that feminine or girly things are inherently weak, shallow, or unimportant.

It’s often thought that misogynistic view points or comments come solely from the male population – but this isn’t true. We females are just as mean to our own kind (and ourselves) – and sometimes more so! I read an article on Jezebel yesterday that was defending the show Sex and the City. It started off on a light easy going level purely stating that the show was better and more important than most give it credit for. But then a whole new, and more enlightening, conversation began – why are we, as women, afraid to admit that we like things that are seen as feminine?

Women were commenting on this article left and right saying that they often feel ashamed about their “womanly” interests – that they are made to feel as if they are silly, vapid, and unimportant. Only things that identify as scholarly, manly, and/or virtuous are of importance – oh and you also like to take care of yourself and you are interested in using fashion as an art form through which to express yourself and elevate your confidence level? That’s just shallow, girly crap – shove it to the back. Labeled unimportant.

Wrong.

I even see myself slipping into this mindset from time to time. I will see a certain piece of clothing in a store and think – “That’s too girly for me” – and while sometimes it is just a matter of the article not being my particular taste, there are other occasions where I feel like looking ultra feminine will categorize me as dumb, vapid, and self involved.

This is just not the case. We shouldn’t be attributing these negative stigmas to things like pink, lace, ruffles, or bows. We are women. And that difference is what makes us strong. Embrace it.

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Get it: (left to right, top to bottom) Vivienne Westwood Tan Rain Sling Backs w/ Bow – $145 vanmildert.com, White Lace Bow Back Wedge – $48 storenvy.com, Satin Pink Mule – $325 simplysoles.com, Pink Rhinestone Ballet Flat – $83 zappos.com, White Bow Peep Toe Sling Back – $350 katespade.com, Lucite Heel Pink Platforms – $435 luisaviaroma.com, Cream Ballerina Bow Flat – $39 wallisfashion.com

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Shoesday Tuesday – Strength, Beauty, Beauty, Strength

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It is sometimes believed that strength, intelligence, and power can not be synonymous with beauty, fashion, or even femininity. I am here to dispute this claim. In my life, my art, my fashion line, and my career choices I try to make it a point that fashion doesn’t always have to be materialistic and frivolous and that strength doesn’t have to come from a dark or masculine place. It, in fact, can come from a pink, flowery, and feminine place. It’s all up to you.

Yves Saint Laurent said “I have always believed that fashion was not only to make women more beautiful, but also to reassure them, give them confidence.” And with that confidence – you can take over the world. I – like a lot of women – use my wardrobe as a way to present myself to the world, express myself, and reaffirm my confidence. I can wake up feeling a little off – and with the right outfit – be ready to take on the day. And those outfits can range from dark, edgy, and menswear inspired to light, girly, and 1950’s pin up inspired.

There is no set definition of strength in women’s fashion. The strength comes from inside of you. So put on whatever makes you feel good and take on the day.

On that note – take a peek at some typically girly, frothy, feminine footwear and then some edgy, dark, and heavy footwear that would both give me equal confidence as I stomp around this beautiful city of mine.

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Get it: (upper left hand corner heading clockwise) – Bow Front Lace Bootie – $80 misselfridge.com, Lattice Ankle Boot – $55 newlook.com, Criss Cross Ankle Strap Sandal – $450 barneys.com, Pointed Top Ankle Strap Sandal – $1,055 forwardbyelysewalker.com, McQueen Chain Strappy Sandal – $815 alexandermcqueen.com, White Pointed Metallic Strap Flat – $930 brownsfashion.com, Floral Platform T-Strap – $65 udobuy.com, Peep Toe Open Front Bootie – $700 montaignemarket.com

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Get it: (upper left hand corner heading clockwise – Simple Black Strappy Sandal – $79 jildorshoes.com, Gold Tipped Flats – $59 indressme.com, McQueen Studded Heel Pumps – $795 ssense.com, Two Tone Metallic Lace Up Brogues – $325 avenue32.com, Gold Leaf Front Wedge Sandal – $1,695 luisaviaroma.com, Thin Wrapped Strappy Sandal – $595 giuseppezanottidesign.com, Double Ankle Strap Pump – $935 brownsfashion.com, Lace Cut Out Ankle Tie Pump – $1,535 colette.fr, Side Cut Out Pump – $48 aliexpress.com

And remember – “Give a girl the right shoes, and she can conquer the world.”

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