In today’s Shoesday Tuesday – I’m going to talk about something I’ve touched on once before (see here.) And that is the idea that feminine or girly things are inherently weak, shallow, or unimportant.
It’s often thought that misogynistic view points or comments come solely from the male population – but this isn’t true. We females are just as mean to our own kind (and ourselves) – and sometimes more so! I read an article on Jezebel yesterday that was defending the show Sex and the City. It started off on a light easy going level purely stating that the show was better and more important than most give it credit for. But then a whole new, and more enlightening, conversation began – why are we, as women, afraid to admit that we like things that are seen as feminine?
Women were commenting on this article left and right saying that they often feel ashamed about their “womanly” interests – that they are made to feel as if they are silly, vapid, and unimportant. Only things that identify as scholarly, manly, and/or virtuous are of importance – oh and you also like to take care of yourself and you are interested in using fashion as an art form through which to express yourself and elevate your confidence level? That’s just shallow, girly crap – shove it to the back. Labeled unimportant.
I even see myself slipping into this mindset from time to time. I will see a certain piece of clothing in a store and think – “That’s too girly for me” – and while sometimes it is just a matter of the article not being my particular taste, there are other occasions where I feel like looking ultra feminine will categorize me as dumb, vapid, and self involved.
This is just not the case. We shouldn’t be attributing these negative stigmas to things like pink, lace, ruffles, or bows. We are women. And that difference is what makes us strong. Embrace it.
Get it: (left to right, top to bottom) Vivienne Westwood Tan Rain Sling Backs w/ Bow – $145 vanmildert.com, White Lace Bow Back Wedge – $48 storenvy.com, Satin Pink Mule – $325 simplysoles.com, Pink Rhinestone Ballet Flat – $83 zappos.com, White Bow Peep Toe Sling Back – $350 katespade.com, Lucite Heel Pink Platforms – $435 luisaviaroma.com, Cream Ballerina Bow Flat – $39 wallisfashion.com