Shoesday Tuesday – In Defense of Heels

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I wear heels a lot.

I suppose that makes me look “fancy” – whatever that means.

People like to point this out to me – a lot.

Sometimes it’s just a genuine compliment but more often than not it is some combination of shock and confusion as to why I am so “fancy.”

We – as an American culture – get away with barely putting any effort in how we present ourselves. (Maybe sans NYC and probably LA..and no that does not make us vain – although some people here are.) People wear pajamas outside the house, leggings as pants, and yoga pants to work. So yes – compared to that – I suppose I am “fancy,” but if that’s the scale we’re looking at – I will gladly sit on the “fancy” side of it.

If someone catches me in a dress and heels – forget it – consider their minds’ blown. Which is ridiculous. But let’s go back to the heels portion of the equation. Obviously – since you are reading this blog – you know I love shoes. I love buying shoes, looking at shoes, and wearing shoes. Some of those shoes are heels – well, most of them are. I decided to do a little background research as to why women wear heels. However – I should really call that topic “why people think women wear heels” because I was not impressed with what I found.

A number of articles come up on this subject when you type it into Google – some written by men, some by women – and then there’s also a smattering of random people who posed this question to message boards.

The overwhelming consensus from these sources – is that women wear heels because they think they make them look more appealing to the opposite sex (of course – no mention of women possibly wanting to look appealing to the same sex.) And while heels may make you look more attractive – and there were actually studies done to prove so – I think that has very little to do with why the majority of women decide to put them on their feet on a daily basis.

There were some slight glimmers of hope. Lea Goldman – the features editor for Marie Claire says that she’s “utterly convinced that high heels can empower women.. they help women look and feel confident and self-assured.” This is a sentiment I can get on board with. However – she then goes into how women should wear heels to work so they are physically eye to eye with men (because how could a man take you seriously if you are shorter than him? Am I right?).  She then goes even further in the wrong direction by saying you shouldn’t wear heels that are too high because that just looks “tawdry” and “makes your colleagues feel uncomfortable.” I gotta stop you right there, girl.

Enough of what silly online articles say – I want to actually know why women wear heels. So – I asked my ladies – and I got a myriad of responses – only one of which was “to look sexy.” Most of what I heard ran along the lines of – to go with my outfit (or vice versa – considering my best friend and I often choose outfits based around our shoes). I was also told – to create an overall good proportion within an outfit, to be taller, to stand out, to go out, and because they look pretty (they as in the shoes themselves, not the wearer.)

When it comes down to it – women want to feel good about themselves and their bodies. They want to feel in control (possibly larger than life) and heels help them do that. I know for sure that when I wake up sleepy or grumpy in the morning – if I throw on a pair of amazing shoes I instantaneously feel better. So if that makes me “fancy” – so be it – I feel good, the end.

As for my shoes today? They happen to be 5″ high (and only cost me $25). That means I’m a fancy 6’2 lady right now – and that’s just how I like it.

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Shoesday Tuesday – Love Your Spots

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Today’s Shoesday Tuesday is inspired by a multitude of things that all converge around my general fashion and life philosophy – “To thine ownself be true.” – which is also my first (and most likely favorite) tattoo.

Between all the recent “blame the victim” rape trials circulating lately and an overwhelming appreciation I have for the love and support coming my way currently in my personal life – this quote and philosophy have never seemed more important to bring back into the light.

To quote an article on fashionista.com pertaining to the fashion world’s move towards the so called “modesty trend” – and one writer’s (Faran Krentcil – http://fashionista.com/2013/04/the-issue-with-t-magazines-slut-clothes/ ) particular opinion on it’s implications – “With fashion, we have the opportunity to create, explore, and celebrate the complex creatures we are, and those we want to be.”

Let us remember that women all around our world don’t always have this freedom. Let us use fashion as a way to create confidence, garner respect from others, and express ourselves creatively all at the same time. Let us uplift and enlighten those around us instead of shaming people for their personal choices.

Not everyone you come upon is going to appreciate you for the unique creature that you are – if you are lucky enough to find people that do (and you will be) – hold onto them tightly. If you want to be bold and loud – be bold and loud, if you want to be understated and quietly strong – be understated and quietly strong. But make those choices for yourself – do what feels right for you personally – and be steadfast.

To round this back to shoes – I present some eye candy relatable to a personal aesthetic of mine that I’ve been rockin’ proudly since junior high.

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Get it (left to right, top to bottom): Metallic and Leopard Pointed Flats – $56 oasap.com, Cut Out L.A.M.B Pumps – $295 zappos.com, T-Strap Leopard Sandal – $600 flannelsfashion.com, Chunky Leopard Pump – $117 zappos.com, Ankle Strap Flat Sandal – $50 nelly.com, T-Strap Cap Toe Flat – $129 theoutnet.com

Love yourself and find someone who loves the you that you love.

And remember:

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Shoesday Tuesday – Strength, Beauty, Beauty, Strength

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It is sometimes believed that strength, intelligence, and power can not be synonymous with beauty, fashion, or even femininity. I am here to dispute this claim. In my life, my art, my fashion line, and my career choices I try to make it a point that fashion doesn’t always have to be materialistic and frivolous and that strength doesn’t have to come from a dark or masculine place. It, in fact, can come from a pink, flowery, and feminine place. It’s all up to you.

Yves Saint Laurent said “I have always believed that fashion was not only to make women more beautiful, but also to reassure them, give them confidence.” And with that confidence – you can take over the world. I – like a lot of women – use my wardrobe as a way to present myself to the world, express myself, and reaffirm my confidence. I can wake up feeling a little off – and with the right outfit – be ready to take on the day. And those outfits can range from dark, edgy, and menswear inspired to light, girly, and 1950’s pin up inspired.

There is no set definition of strength in women’s fashion. The strength comes from inside of you. So put on whatever makes you feel good and take on the day.

On that note – take a peek at some typically girly, frothy, feminine footwear and then some edgy, dark, and heavy footwear that would both give me equal confidence as I stomp around this beautiful city of mine.

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Get it: (upper left hand corner heading clockwise) – Bow Front Lace Bootie – $80 misselfridge.com, Lattice Ankle Boot – $55 newlook.com, Criss Cross Ankle Strap Sandal – $450 barneys.com, Pointed Top Ankle Strap Sandal – $1,055 forwardbyelysewalker.com, McQueen Chain Strappy Sandal – $815 alexandermcqueen.com, White Pointed Metallic Strap Flat – $930 brownsfashion.com, Floral Platform T-Strap – $65 udobuy.com, Peep Toe Open Front Bootie – $700 montaignemarket.com

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Get it: (upper left hand corner heading clockwise – Simple Black Strappy Sandal – $79 jildorshoes.com, Gold Tipped Flats – $59 indressme.com, McQueen Studded Heel Pumps – $795 ssense.com, Two Tone Metallic Lace Up Brogues – $325 avenue32.com, Gold Leaf Front Wedge Sandal – $1,695 luisaviaroma.com, Thin Wrapped Strappy Sandal – $595 giuseppezanottidesign.com, Double Ankle Strap Pump – $935 brownsfashion.com, Lace Cut Out Ankle Tie Pump – $1,535 colette.fr, Side Cut Out Pump – $48 aliexpress.com

And remember – “Give a girl the right shoes, and she can conquer the world.”

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